A broken relationship can drive people to depression, especially if they’ve suffered rejection. If you’ve been in this situation, you may have wondered how someone so close to you could become a stranger. Perhaps this person was central to your world and now you must begin again.
One way to mitigate the feelings of loneliness is to avoid going to the places you used to meet. Maybe you could even consider severing ties with friends you had in common – at least until you can get over the heartbreak. Probably the best way to mend your broken heart is to be a philosopher and a realist. Take a few deep breaths and become an observer. Watch your reactions. Think of the freedom from anxiety you now enjoy. Your happiness no longer depends on the actions of another person. Sometimes, thinking of the bad habits your partner had works well to burst the love bubble.
It’s important to avoid internalizing the rejection from another and think you’re unattractive or unable to inspire love. These feelings can make you feel like you’ll never find anyone to love again and can lead to depression. If you feel this way, remember that your worth is not measured by what someone thinks of you! You’re an awesome, unique person in your own right and you don’t require another person to validate your God-Given gifts and talents. So remember: the loss is theirs for rejecting you!
What the heart has once owned and had, it shall never lose.
- Henry Ward Beecher
Ways to Overcome Heartbreak and Move On
1. Write it all down. Pen your feelings in a journal or write your ex a letter that you’ll never send. Writing is cathartic. Writing about your experiences, whether negative or positive, will make you feel lighter. You’ll have a better idea of how to make your next relationship a success.
2. Look for a pattern in your relationships. Is there a certain type of person you always find yourself attracted to? Does that work for you? Why or why not?
3. Many women, for instance, find themselves attracted to “bad boys.” This type of man could have criminal tendencies or be violent; he could be a drug addict or a playboy. If you tend to find bad boys attractive, you may want to discover the reason and eliminate it from your psyche.
4. Clean the house. Get rid of your ex’s things. As you clean, imagine that you’re cleansing your heart of the anger and pain.
5. Rediscover your hobbies and favorite activities. Maybe you didn’t have much time for these while in the relationship, but now you can return to them. Keep yourself busy with things you like to do. You needn’t depend on anyone else for your enjoyment.
6. Start an exercise routine. Exercise releases “happy” hormones and will make you healthy and trim. If you feel your overweight problem played a major role in your partner’s rejection, join an exercise program and lose some weight. Do this in a sensible way, choosing an exercise routine which suits your body and mentality.
7. Spend some time with your friends. Talking to them about your break up may help lighten the heaviness you feel. Ask them about their lives. Shift the focus from you to them. Chat with others online who have suffered heartbreak as well.
8. Forgive your ex. Or forgive yourself if you blame yourself for the breakup. Forgiveness is essential if you want to move on and cultivate healthy relationships. It’s essential even if you just choose to remain single because resentment and anger are negative emotions that will eat into your slice of happiness.
9. Be thankful for the relationship and grateful for the love you shared. It was necessary for your self-development or you wouldn’t have encountered it. Identify the lessons you’ve learned because of it and move on.
10. Find a spiritual path. Use the time alone to focus on your inner self. Most of us are too busy nurturing our physical selves to think of our eternal spiritual selves, but we are spiritual beings in physical bodies.
11. If you can find the well of joy within yourself, then you won’t need to look for it outside. This could be the best thing you could do to heal painful, negative emotions.
12. It will give you a new sense of purpose to understand your immaculate true being and try to manifest it.
13. Get in touch with your inner self through prayer and guidance.
14. Get a pet. Dogs are the ultimate stress busters. When you’re aching for a hug, hug your dog. They’ll love you unconditionally and will always welcome you back even if you’ve been away for just five minutes.