If you expect too much from yourself (or from others), you’re bound to feel stressed. No one is perfect. Accept your reality and the fact that life is unpredictable and you’re likely to make mistakes. This way, if things don’t work out according to plan, you won’t get upset and you won’t give up.
If you depend on others for your happiness, you may be sorely disappointed. After all, you’re responsible for your own joy. Also, blaming others for your misery, won’t bring you any closer to happiness! Instead, focus on what you have to be grateful for. You’ll feel liberated because you no longer harbor negative feelings towards others.
One way to be objective is by understanding that your true worth isn’t determined by your abilities or talent, but by your humanity.
Ask yourself the following questions:
1. What am I contributing to the world around me? If your purpose in life is to live only for yourself or if all you want to do is party and hoard your belongings, you’ll likely feel hollow over time.
2. Am I taking family and friends for granted? This is so easy to do and most of us are guilty of this offense on some level. When it comes to family, we think we can get away with being our worst selves because they’ll understand and love us unconditionally. This is why people often struggle with family relationships.
3. Am I causing emotional or physical hardship for others? Perhaps unwittingly, we cause heartache for others. Some examples are teenagers who scorn the wise advice of their parents, people who take pride in jilting their lovers, those who cheat on their spouses, and husbands who beat their wives.
✴ Look at the story of Mariah. In her wild past, she took pride in amassing lovers and breaking their hearts. It gave her a sense of power. Her wild ways contributed to her father’s grief.
✴ Today, Mariah is a spiritual seeker. When she meets her old friends who admired her for her hedonism, she always encounters their disbelief and shock. While they may think she’s leading a colorless life, Mariah knows better. She has released the negative emotions of the past, is freeing herself from stress and found greater happiness.
It is best to love wisely, no doubt;
but to love foolishly is better than
not to be able to love at all.
- William Thackeray